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She sees the world through a special lens that finds humor,
gentleness and love in the most common everyday events. In
her seventh decade, Donna sees all that’s right with the
world. You would never know the real story of her life. She
would never tell you. It was just stuff that happened along
the way to a full life that borrows a line from a Jimmy
Buffet song, “some of it magic, some of it tragic, but I had
a good life all the way”
Her story begins in a small Bulgarian village called Martin.
Located on the Danube River a few miles and a lifetime away
from the larger town of Ruse, Martin was and is now, a
peasant village where people grow their own food, make their
own wine and struggle to survive. Economic downturns don’t
mean much in Martin because the population has never seen
prosperity.
Donna was born in October, 1938 to Atanas and Stanka Petcoff.
Atanas was the oldest son in a family of three girls and one boy
and her mom a hardworking daughter of a farming family. This
is where the story takes off like the plot of a Russian
novel.
Atanas was asked by his family to accompany a younger sister
and her new husband to America to help them get settled.
Once the mission was accomplished, he would find a job and a
place to live and then send for his pregnant wife, Stanka.
He escorted the newlyweds to Toledo, Ohio in the fall of
1938. By the time he was ready for his wife to join him, war
had broken out in Europe and he was denied passage. Neither
could his wife and now infant daughter travel out of
Bulgaria to join him.
The separation lasted for nine long years. Donna and her
mother lived in a one room home with her grandparents on the
family farm. She remembers being hidden away from Nazi
soldiers as they traveled through the village taking food
and other possessions from the people they terrorized. Her
mother sang to her to calm her during the frightening days
and nights of Nazi occupation. She remembers her mother’s
voice “as being so beautiful, it made me cry”. Despite the
hardships and separation from her father, Donna’s mother
remained optimistic about the future and assured her
daughter that they would one day be reunited as a family.
Her mother would say” Tomorrow will be a better day”.
“My mother had a wonderful sense of humor and she used it to
relieve the stress and make me feel safe” recalled Donna.”
In the worst of times, she could make me laugh. She was a
remarkably strong woman. As I think about it, my mother was
also my best friend. I could tell her anything”.
Finally, in the winter of 1947 arrangements were complete
for Donna and her mother to travel to the United States to
join the father she had never known. Shipboard passage was
in the hold of an overcrowded ocean liner. At age nine,
Donna stepped onto Ellis Island as Danka Petcoff. An
immigration agent Americanized her name to Donna and she
prepared to meet her father for the first time in her life.
“At first, I was afraid of him” she remembers. “He was a
stranger, and my mother had taught me to be wary of
strangers during the war”. The family of three traveled to
Toledo, where Atanas had a factory job and an apartment.
Finally, they were a family. As her mother told her,
“tomorrow would be a better day”.
Donna acclimated to American life and language quickly. She
enrolled in the local elementary school and learned English
rapidly. Soon she spoke perfect English without the hint of
a European accent. She was an honor student and loved the
process of learning.
Nine months after entering America, Donna had a baby
brother. She was a doting big sister and enjoyed being part
of the typical American family of four. Her father was proud
of his children and made sure that all the basic needs were
met.
“I still own some cashmere sweaters that he bought for me
when I was a young girl. They were such special gifts and
probably more than the family could afford. I cherish the
gifts, but I cherish the thought behind them even more.”
In the eighth grade, Donna met a handsome local boy named
Carson Watson. He lived just down the street and was kind
and friendly to her. Soon, Carson was hanging around the
house and became a favorite of Donna’s father. “My Dad had a
car, but no drivers license so Carson would drive him all
around town. Dad really loved Carson like a son.”
Five years after meeting her father, tragedy struck. Atanas
was killed in an automobile accident. Donna was only 15. Her
mother was now the head of the household and bravely trying
to raise two children. She had no job experience outside the
home and rather poor command of the English language. But
she tried. She worked in a tomato processing plant to try to
earn enough money to support the family. It wasn’t working.
She was miserable, but still she sang to her daughter “in a
voice so beautiful it still made me cry” and promised
“tomorrow will be a better day”
The Bulgarian-American community in Toledo took interest in
the family and arranged a meeting for Stanka. They found an
older Bulgarian gentleman who owned a business and would
make a fine husband for the widow Petcoff. Alone and afraid,
Stanka agreed to the marriage.
Donna, now 17, also had wedding bells in mind. She and
Carson had been dating since she was 13 and they were in
love. Carson had graduated from high school and had enlisted
in the Marine Corps. He would be assigned to San Diego and
Donna wanted desperately to join him. But she was underage
and needed her mother’s permission to obtain a marriage
license. Stanka agreed, and on Christmas Eve, 1955 Donna
Petcoff became Mrs. Carson Watson before a Justice of the
Peace, her mother and in- laws.
Donna moved to California and her mother, stepfather and
brother moved to Florida. A few months later, her mother
received a long distance telephone call from California. Donna was pregnant. The baby was due in March.
When Carson was discharged from the Marine Corps, the young
family moved back to Toledo. Carson found work and Donna
dreamed of returning to school. She found a job to
supplement the family budget and she and Carson made sure
that one of them was always at home with their daughter.
Life was good.
Christmas morning, 1958 Donna received a long distance phone
call from her stepfather. Her mother had died in bed from a
brain aneurysm. The funeral would take place in Toledo so
that her mom could be buried next to her father. Donna was
devastated.
Months passed, and then years and the pain healed. Her
mother’s optimism passed on to her. Tomorrow would be
better, the future would be kinder.
Soon Donna learned that another baby on the way. A second
beautiful daughter Once again, life was good.
Her family had settled into a comfortable routine. She took
up painting as a hobby. Something to fill the hours while
the children were in school. Friends encouraged her to enter
art shows. She did and it was fun. It also fueled her desire
to return to school, to study art more formally.
Donna enrolled at the University of Toledo and studied art
seriously. She studied the masters, past and present and she
polished her own style. She experimented with watercolors,
mixed media and oil. She learned pottery. She found her
identity. She knew she was born to be an artist. She knew
that all of life’s experiences had become part of her and
part of her art. They are forever intertwined.
Life went on. Tragedy struck again while she suffered
through the death of her oldest daughter. Parents are not
supposed to outlive their children. It was a tortuous time.
Tomorrow couldn’t come soon enough. Again the pain subsided,
as her mother always promised it would.
Then, without warning, another of those little life
challenges. She was diagnosed with breast cancer. She faced
the issue with courage and dignity, even humor. She sang and
new that tomorrow would make things better. Optimism,
uncompromising optimism.
Donna turned again to the canvas to create, to be joyful, to
be optimistic. She returned to the village in Bulgaria where
she was born and remembered tearfully the first nine years
of her life. The years that shaped her and strengthened
her. The years that taught her to sing when you’re scared
and to sing when you’re happy and to face life’s challenges
head on. Her work, like her spirit is uncompromisingly
optimistic, courageous and happy. Given her biography, you
wouldn’t expect it. The diminutive body hosts a giant talent
and a genuinely good and decent person.
Donna’s style is part impressionist, part expressionist and
all original. Her paintings reveal the hopeful,
uncompromising optimistic spirit taught to her by her mother
when she was frightened by marching soldiers. They are a
celebration of life and all things good in the world. They
touch your heart and soul and make you know that the future
is bright and that everything will be ok. Because her mother
told her so. |